Friday, March 23, 2012


Getting into a relationship is  kinda easy, but keeping it breathing  is the ish. There are plenty of things, big or small, that could wreck an otherwise awesome relationship. Now, Dr Barton Goldsmith, a California-based psychotherapist and the author of ’100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence – Believe in Yourself and Others Will Too’ reveals what can kill romantic relationships and how to save it from kaput.
1. Money: It’s the root of all evils, as they say,but then again make the money before saying that. If a partner has been unscrupulous, getting the trust back can be a challenge, reports the Sydney Morning Herald.
2. lovemaking/infidelity: A marriage without lovemaking or unfaithfulness can extinguish love quicker than blowing out a candle. Don’t let the flame burn out and try to renew your lovemaking skills(kinda vital).
3. Disrespect: Research shows that belittling, insulting or yelling at your partner can cut the chances of your love life’s survival.
4. Children: Some live for them, others would rather kill themselves. Make sure to keep things in balance with your partner, so you have the energy to deal with any child issues.
5. Opposite-sex friends: If you don’t want your spouse/partner to dine out and have drinks with a member of the opposite sex, then you need to follow the same guidelines “cos its a tit for a tat”.
6. Resentments: Don’t hold your pain, hurt or anger inside. If you are holding something back let it out else u just might blow up.put the matter to rest, so you can enjoy your relationship.
7. Lying/broken promises: Even if you’re afraid of getting in trouble, tell the whole truth and don’t break promises, and find a way to make up for past mistakes.
8. Laziness: Keeping a relationship is a lot ta work, and if you are unwilling to do it, your connection will dwindle and you just might begin to resent your partner.
9. Being mean: If you punish your partner when you don’t get your way, or if the two of you give each other the silent treatment, you are headed for a lifetime of emotional pain. Stop the nastiness and learn to talk about it.
10. Discomfort/remodeling. If you are living in a construction zone, it’s pretty hard to feel comfortable. Injury or illness can create a similar situation. Your home should be a place of serenity, so if you are remodeling or are dealing with physical issues, make your comfort a priority

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