Sunday, August 11, 2013

Chika Ike: “I Left My Marriage because I was a Victim of Domestic Violence” | Nollywood Actress shares Story of Physical Assault

Chika Ike - August 2013 - BellaNaija
Here you have it world, Chika Ike is sharing one of the main reasons she divorced her husband.
Last month, the 27 year old Nollywood actress announced that her divorce is finalised. Ever since her separation, she has received lots of backlash on social media on her failed marriage – from speculation that “she was not a loyal wife” to rumours that “she got married for money”.
Chika Ike's Wedding Day
Single, happy and living life to the fullest now, she shares the reason why she filed for divorce. Her husband, known as Mr Eberibi physically assaulted her for years. One of the many fights resulted in a miscarriage.
Read Chika Ike’s Heartbreaking story;
The past three years has been a very emotional period for me, I focused my energy on work and to build back my self esteem.
It’s been really hard for me to come out straight and talk about this because sometimes, I pinch myself to wake up and not believe that I was a victim of domestic violence. I’ve been through a lot in my life, faced a lot of challenges but this is one topic I’ve tried so hard to avoid and have been waiting for the right time but I have come to a resolve that there’s really no right time because every second of the day, lives are being lost due to domestic violence.
I was a victim of domestic violence in my marriage and that was the singular reason I left my marriage, aside other reasons.
Growing up as a girl, I was always known as the sweetest kid on the block, before I got married, I have been through some relationships and for once no man had ever laid a finger on me. The first time it happened in my marriage I didn’t understand it because I am not the type of woman a man beats but I guess there are no types.
It just happens and no woman deserves it. As a young girl I thought it was love or his way of expressing his emotions,after every beating he pleads , cries and says it won’t happen again, once again I thought it was love and made excuses for him.
Over the years when it kept happening consistently, I started looking for other definitions for it. I started loosing my self pride, self esteem, self worth, and most painfully I lost a pregnancy (Miscarriage). I almost lost my life in the process then I realised how serious and abnormal it really was.
I have heard and read a lot of accusations from ignorant people who don’t know my story, I guess that’s why they are ignorant. I was 20 yrs old and very naive to the world when I got married . “They said I married for money” LOL. I was married to a corporate guy, who had a 9 to 5 job in a bank, lives in a rented 2 bedroom apartment at Egbe.
So do the math! I married for love. I did a traditional wedding. A white wedding and a court wedding. So that’s how much I wanted to be married forever. For five years I hoped, prayed & wished that one day it will all change. But the last straw that broke the carmel’s back was during a heated argument he threw a glass jug to my face and I dogged it and it shattered on d wall.
I saw death flash before me and I made a decision to save my life. I left my marriage.
I am not saying this to draw pity from anyone because we are entitled to our opinions and believes.i am not also saying this to discourage people from falling in love because it’s a beautiful feeling and I still believe in it.
I am saying this to educate, share and talk about my experience as a victim of domestic violence because it is real.

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